Marriage Preparation

The parish community of Queen of Peace Church shares in your excitement in desiring to receive the sacrament of Marriage.  Our clergy and pastoral staff look forward to assisting you in your preparation.

We wholeheartedly believe that these coming months of preparation will provide you the opportunity to reflect, enrich, and prepare for the wonderful gift of the sacrament of Marriage.  As a faith-filled Catholic community, we uphold the Church’s teaching that this sacrament is a life-long, indissoluble commitment in which a man and a woman are united in a sacred and loving bond.  So that this wonderful sacrament is thoughtfully entered into, we invite you to take part in our Marriage Preparation Program with an open mind and heart.

Where to Start

The Marriage Preparation Program at Queen of Peace Church is designed to foster a fruitful and loving marriage rooted in the Catholic tradition.  Initially the couple has an introductory meeting with our Pastor, Fr. Anthony Di Stefano.  Thereafter, the program begins with an initial meeting with one of our priests who will both journey with you in the program and also serve as the celebrant in your wedding.  This is then followed by the Pre-Marriage Inventory assessing the couple’s compatibility, and then, as a couple you will follow with one to two additional follow-up sessions with the priest.

Wedding Checklist

  • Be registered and active in the parish.
  • Call the rectory at 201-997-0700 to make arrangements or use our online form below to inquire about planning a Wedding.
  • Initially meet with our Pastor, Fr. Anthony, to discuss the process and confirm the proposed date and time.
    • The time for a wedding on a Friday or other weekday must be arranged with the pastor based on particular circumstances and on other ministries and activities scheduled in the church.  Please keep in mind that on Saturdays we must accommodate funeral and baptisms throughout the day, as well as confessions that take place at 1pm and Mass at 5pm.  On Sunday, we have Masses throughout the morning and baptisms can also take place in the afternoon.   Potential wedding times may be scheduled as follows:
    • Friday/Weekdays: From 2:00pm until 4:00pm
    • Saturday: From 1:00pm until 3:00pm
    • Sunday: From 2:00pm until 4:00pm
  • Following the introductory meeting, you will receive an email from the pastor confirming the wedding date and time details.

One of our priests will then contact you to arrange your first Pre-Cana marriage preparation meeting.  The marriage preparation process includes several meetings with the priest.  At these meetings your relationship with each other and with God will be discussed, as well as planning out your wedding ceremony.

  • Schedule your rehearsal: Rehearsals are scheduled with the priest who will celebrate your wedding at a time that is mutually agreeable and also confirmed by the pastor that the church is available. 
  • Attend Pre-Cana and submit certificate, and attend God’s Plan for a Joy Filled Marriage, and submit certificate.
  • Submit Baptismal certificates: If you were baptized at Queen of Peace your baptism certificate will be easily attainable here.  Persons not baptized in Queen of Peace Church must contact the church of their baptism to receive a copy of their baptismal certificate.  This must be a new and updated copy dated within 6 months of the wedding. 
  • Final ceremony meeting with Priest.
  • Meet with Music Director, Natasha Gonzalez, to discuss the music for the Wedding.
  • Rehearsal: You are asked to have your wedding party in the church at the scheduled time. Please bring the Marriage license and all fees with you to the rehearsal and give them to the Priest.
  • Wedding Day

In the weeks and months ahead as you plan for the reception of the Sacrament of Matrimony we suggest that you spend some time each day in prayer, reading of the Bible, spiritual reading and in works of mercy. Often prayers in the days ahead, both alone and together, will deepen your personal relationship and your relationship with God.

Music

The couple should contact our Music Director shortly after their first meeting with the priest to establish contact. As you get closer, within 3 months of the wedding, arrangements for music should be made with Natasha Gonzalez our Director of Music. A thorough and complete planning session will take place between the music director and the couple in which they will select music reflecting the dignified worship of God. Secular music is not allowed.

Readings

During the course of your marriage preparation, you will receive a booklet, Together For Life, which contains selections of readings and prayers that are used in the Nuptial Mass or Ceremony.  The priest preparing you will go over the booklet with you on the options.  We ask you to carefully choose the selections that resonate with you about the spirituality of your marriage.

You can also find copies of typical Readings from Sacred Scripture for your selection appropriate for wedding ceremonies.

Policies

REHEARSAL

Rehearsals are scheduled by a priest who will celebrate your wedding at a time that is mutually agreeable. Because there may be a number of rehearsals scheduled on any given evening, you are asked to have your wedding party in the church at the scheduled time, otherwise your rehearsal may be postponed until the other scheduled rehearsals are completed. On the evening of the rehearsal the following must be presented to the priest or deacon. a/ the marriage license b/ the church fee of $500 c/ the music director’s fee of $400 d/ a small gift for 2 altar servers (usually $10 each)

PHOTOGRAPHS AND VIDEO

In choosing photographers and videographers please know that we require that they must not distract those who attend the ceremony, or the bride and groom. We do not allow pictures or videos to be taken from within the sanctuary (the altar area) and only those hired by a couple are permitted to move about during the service. Floodlights are not permitted during the service. Due to the volume of weddings in our church, picture taking in the church or on the church grounds after the wedding is prohibited. Please inform your photographer and videographer about these restrictions.

CHURCH DECORATIONS

The couple makes arrangements for all floral decorations. All deliveries are to be made at least one -half hour before the start of the service. Please inform your florist that if pew decorations are used, they can not be taped or tacked to the pew. Florists should use rubber bands. The use of runners in the church are not permitted.. It is customary to leave flowers in the church after the wedding for the decoration of the church during the weekend.

LIMOUSINE SERVICE

Please inform your limousine service that the wedding procession will begin at the Church Place entrance of the church and the wedding recession will end at the main entrance of the church on Ridge Road. Alcoholic beverages of any kind are prohibited on the church grounds before, during and after all rehearsals and weddings.

UNITY CANDLE

This popular practice, although never formally approved by the church, has been fairly common. Because it has never been fully integrated into the Catholic wedding liturgy, we discourage couples from using this practice at their wedding service.

RICE, BIRDSEED, CONFETTI, ROSE PETALS

To keep the church aisles and steps clean and safe for all who come to Queen of Peace, and to avoid any question of liability to you or your guests, you are requested to inform those who attend your wedding that throwing rice, birdseed, confetti or rose petals is prohibited inside or outside of the church.

ALWAYS ON TIME

All people involved in a wedding rehearsal must be in the church 10 minutes prior to the scheduled time. On the day of the wedding the full bridal party must be in the church 15 minutes before the time the wedding is scheduled to begin.

Inquiry About Planning a Wedding


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10 Franklin Place, North Arlington, NJ 07031
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Phone: 201-997-0700 | Fax: 201-997-6214
Email: info@qpcna.org 

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